A certain someone said, "you cannot secure a marriage because of love" and "not all who get married are because of love" just like "you cannot keep a man if you have a child" or "you cannot secure a man if you are married" because the thought is always ringing on the unsatisfied contentment of a man. but if a man wants to marry you, he will introduce you to his family not hide you under covers and closed doors he will bring you to his house, not some motels and lodges if he wants to keep you, he will not impregnate you because he knows a woman's value and worth to tell you, marriage is not solely on love alone what happens if the love is gone? you separate? you always make sure that if you want to marry someone, your sole foundation is God, not just a superficial love I get it, love is love. I love to love. but first of all, consider loving God first just as he loves you. love yourself first just as a man loves to love you. then, it is settled. also, marriage does not keep a man. A man will have to decide if he wants to keep you in his life forever, be the mother of your children, or be the wife he wishes to see every morning he wakes up or you were just a ******* he would always call whenever it was convenient for him. you cannot force a man to choose or keep you, if he wanted to, he would that is his decision to take, not yours to force.