All the advice we give and people we try to change all simply won't matter. People will do exactly what they want to do the moment you are not around. If something is truly important you only ever really need to say it once. Everything else is energy you could be spending doing what you want whatever that is. So just accept that now. Accept that people will do what they want to do and stop trying to change that. Choose you instead
I have watched the generations above me as their parents have passed and it's always sad but also a fresh breath because now they can be themselves when they quite frankly could have been all along. All the energy invested into trying to find validation. It's a white knuckled love. We grip things so tight forgetting that we have our own hearts to tend to.
Everybody lives until the moment they are dead. And once you are dead life continues on just as it always has so choose love daily. Choose you.